When you’re helping grieving Christians, it’s important to remember that they’re doing more than grieving their loved one’s death. They’re also evaluating their response to their loved one’s death. They’re wondering, Am I grieving like a Christian should? Do my feelings of despair indicate a lack of faith? Am I being a bad example to others who look up to me? I believe in what … [Read more...]
Safe person: How to respond when people open up to you
Most people like to help others and that is a good thing, because we are surrounded by hurting people every day. They may be in your small group or Bible study, over your backyard fence, or in line at the store. The people in your circle of influence may share with you the difficulties and trials they have going on in their lives because their burden is too heavy to bear … [Read more...]
The plastic smile: “Pastor, why should I tell someone how much I’m hurting?”
Encouraging people who are hurting or struggling to share their experiences with others in the church is usually good advice. When a person shares, he is often surprised to learn that others have dealt with, or are dealing with, similar circumstances. Rich comfort and encouragement frequently come from such conversations. However, some who hear this advice will push back. … [Read more...]