Brent is a twentysomething seminary student who comes for counseling because of a growing concern expressed by his wife, Monica. She thinks he comes across at times as cold or insensitive. Although that is a sufficient reason to seek counseling, she presses even further. Monica argues that since he wants to be a pastor, she is concerned that his emotional cluelessness would be … [Read more...]
4 pastoral truths for those scared by the news
The Internet has flooded the world with information. Although this has broadened people’s understanding of the world beyond their communities, it has also provided them with wave after wave of frightening stories. Twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, people can be exposed to the ways in which sin rips apart God’s world. Consequently, in an unprecedented way, Christians … [Read more...]
Why leaders must exercise self-control over their emotions
In order for you to help others and serve others well, you need to understand and control your emotions. This will help you stay calm when caring for others and allow you to be a good example to the people you care for. The following recommendations are effective tools that will help you do that. Know your emotional self – Know your emotional reactions and how the … [Read more...]
Fightin’ words? How humility may help you avoid your next conflict
Do you have more conflicts than conversions? More disputes than disciples? If so, growing in humility may be what you need to avoid your next potential argument. Susan Lutz explains why. Takeaways and additional thoughts … The proud person can fall into the trap of believing his flaws are minor, so he can be tempted to think the person who complains … [Read more...]
Hijacking member complaints for the glory of God
Lunch was great. But you know what’s next. And it’s not the bill. “Pastor, I’d like to talk to you about something …” From there you hear yet another complaint about the church—what you’re not doing, what you could be doing, who’s being neglected, who feels rejected. On and on it goes. Instead of listening, you start nodding—not in agreement with him, but affirming … [Read more...]