Beware of simplistic explanations You’ll often hear people conclude, “Depression is a sin problem,” or, “It’s a physical illness.” Others will say it’s an “emotional response to a stressful event or trauma,” such as with reactive or situational depression. Counselor Leslie Vernick explains why defining depression with these simple statements doesn’t work, can be harmful, and … [Read more...]
“What’s next?” Helping those who fear another tragedy
After a tragedy, a person struggles with a myriad of fears. One such fear is the rationalization that since this terrible event has happened, it very well could happen again. The recent tragedy might be something that happened to the person or someone close to him, or it might be a tragedy he witnessed or read about. Whatever the case, this person has become anxiety-ridden with … [Read more...]
How to recruit care ministry leaders
You know the frustration—finding more volunteers, and not just able bodies, but committed lay leaders whose lives demonstrate they are full of wisdom and the Spirit and able to take on care ministry responsibilities. You are blessed by the faithful few you have, but, frankly, you need more strong, committed care ministry leaders. Here’s a six-step process for helping you … [Read more...]
Call the cops? Kick out a rebellious teen? Options when drastic steps are needed
Sometimes an older teen will be so out of control that drastic steps are needed. Should you advise the parents to kick out their child? What other options are there? Dr. Jim Newheiser, pastor at Grace Bible Church in Escondido, CA, and Dr. Bob Barnes, president of Sheridan House Family Ministries, a residential treatment program for teenagers in Fort Lauderdale, FL, respond … [Read more...]
“Pastor, I’m a failure”
My first marriage failed because I was unfaithful to my wife,” shares Michael. “I’m very prone to wanting to go back and beat myself up for that. That was a horrible mistake. I know God is a grace-filled God. He still loves me and has forgiven me, and my first wife has forgiven me. But that’s an area where I struggle. I still think about my failure quite a bit. That’s a vicious … [Read more...]