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Feeling the burn: Defusing the source of your anger

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It’s no secret that we get angry with staff members, church members, and even family members. But just because we may have more spiritual authority and insight than those we interact with doesn’t mean we’re always innocent when it comes to conflict. Elyse Fitzpatrick explains …

Questions to ask yourself when you’re angry with a church member:

  • What do I want from this person that I’m not getting (respect, my way, money, time, etc.)
  • Has what I want from this person become more important to me than obeying biblical principles of conflict resolution and obeying exhortations to be at peace and love our brothers and enemies?
  • Have I sinned in my anger?
  • Do I need to confess any sin regarding this conflict to God and the person I’m angry with?
  • Are there sacrifices I can make in order for there to be peace?

What principles guide you when you’re dealing with conflict?

Sam Hodges
Sam Hodges
Managing Editor

Sam leads the CareLeader team. As a seminary-trained, ordained pastor, Sam knows firsthand a pastor’s desire to provide effective care to hurting people in the church and community. He directs and oversees CareLeader’s content, making sure the articles and videos equip pastors with information and ideas that are strategic, do-able, and consistent with Christ-centered, biblical care principles.

Sam also leads Church Initiative’s editorial team and has written and produced a number of Church Initiative’s video-based small group curriculums. They include GriefShare second and third editions (2006, 2014), DivorceCare third edition (2012), and Single & Parenting (2011). Sam is also coauthor of Grieving with Hope: Finding Comfort as You Journey Through Loss.

Sam graduated from Howard University with a bachelor of arts in communications. After that he received a master of divinity degree from Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary with an emphasis in Christian education. Sam has also served on staff as a discipleship pastor at Infinity Church in Laurel, MD.

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